Friday, March 11, 2022

Trying to Turn Back The Clock

On March 14, Affirm United asks Affirming congregations to take part in PIE Day. PIE stands for Public, Intentional, and Explicit in our support of all people.

It is interesting that in the last couple of weeks, some American states have been working to turn back the clock and force young LGBTQ2+ individuals to hide who they are. 

The Florida "Don't Say Gay" law has been featured prominently  in the news lately. Here is a balanced view of what it says:

Many young children come from families where their siblings, parents, aunts and uncles,  even grandparents are gay. What would educators be doing to these little people, in denying the existence of their family? What are they doing to students who are gay?

In Texas and many other states, legislators are trying to ban access to gender affirming medical treatments for transgender youth. Texas has gone so far as to call obtaining medical treatment for your child "abuse", threatening to seize children from their parents.

In one study 40% of transgender adults reported that they had attempted suicide. Nearly all had attempted suicide before they were 25. These laws can only exacerbate this situation.

As Affirming Christians, we need to protect all children from those who would try to prevent them from becoming who God meant them to be. We must be public, intentional, and explicit in telling those in authority that we want a world where all children are safe to explore who they are and who they can become.

Friday, December 10, 2021

Let's Celebrate!

On December 19, we will hold a service of celebration, both in person, in the sanctuary, and on Zoom, to mark the start of our Affirming Ministry. We are inviting other Affirming Congregations to join us. We will have a guest speaker, special music, and we will receive our certificate, designating us as a member congregation of Affirm United.

Unfortunately, the cake will have to wait ( we are hoping it can be part of our Pride service in June).  So here is a virtual cake, for now. If you click on the picture, it will take you to the recipe, if you would like to make your own.

Friday, October 22, 2021

Transgender Youth - In The News

Following is a link to the front page article of the Ottawa Citizen on Tuesday, October 19, 2021, “NEEDS OF TRANS YOUTH”.  In the article, Dr. Margaret Lawson, an endocrinologist at CHEO, draws attention to the need for timely mental health support for transgender youth.  She has been working at CHEO with trans youths for 16 years and notes that with greater support for trans youth they may have improved mental health as adults. 

On October 20th the front page article reported on a B.C. man traveling across Canada to protest hormone therapy for trans youth.  Ottawa Carleton District School Board advised the man would be demonstating at Broadview Public School.  Many parents, students and supporters for trans people turned out to reassure trans youth that they are loved.  Here is a link to the full article and a youtube interview with some of those in attendance.

Wednesday, August 25, 2021

Book Review - Gay Like Me by Richie Jackson


Richie Jackson and his first husband had twins boys by a surrogate mother.  They were born 3 months premature and one boy died.  Some years later the dad’s separated and Richie remarried Jordan.  Together they continued to raise their first son and then another.

This book is from Richie to their son explaining life in America from one gay man to another.  Their son is off to college and Dad wants to impart some knowledge to help along the way.  

The writing is very honest and direct.  Dad is very proud to know his son is gay but wants him also to know that America doesn’t see him as an equal…yet.

I appreciated the honesty of this book and Richie’s spirited perspective.

Gay Like Me is available from the Ottawa Public Library.

Wednesday, August 18, 2021

Book Review - The Story of Silence by Alex Myers

The Story of Silence takes place in England in the 13th century.  It is about a boy named Silence, who is a girl.  Their father raised him as a boy because there was a royal decree that family’s possessions could not be passed to a female.

This book is for those who love fantasy with dragons, wizards and serpents.  I enjoyed reading a transgender story from centuries ago.

The Story of Silence is available at the Ottawa Public Library as a book and as an e-book.

Wednesday, August 11, 2021

Book Review - Over the Top by Jonathan Van Ness


Jonathan Van Ness is a hairstylist, podcaster, comedian and television personality living in New York City.  

As a boy growing up in Midwest USA, he constantly felt he didn’t fit in, was bullied and had to fight to find safety.  Then as a teen and adult he moved into self-destruction mode.  He needed great courage and determination to be himself.  

Jonathan is definitely an extrovert, very outlandish and loves every minute of it.  I enjoyed his stories as they are wild and let you in on a very different perspective.  His perspective helped me to learn and understand. 

Over The Top is available from the Ottawa Public Library as a book, e-book and an audio book.

Wednesday, August 4, 2021

Book Review - She's My Dad by Jonathon S. Williams



The author of this book, Jonathan S. Williams, is a pastor at a church in Brooklyn N.Y.  His Dad, Paula Stone Williams, is also a pastor.


As a married man, with a young son, Jonathan’s father Paul announces to all the family that he can no longer live as a man.  Paul first told his wife, then his grown daughters and last made the trip from Denver to Brooklyn to speak with his son, Jonathan.


All Jonathan’s life he has looked up to his father and followed in his Dad’s footsteps to become a pastor.   His father is his most trusted confidante.  While both men are open to the concept of LGBTQ, this news is devastating to Jonathan. 


She’s My Dad includes letters between father and son and describes Jonathan’s grief over losing his Dad and learning to accept his father, Paula.


I recommend this book for its insight into transition and how one’s transition affects oneself and each member of a family. 

She's My Dad is available in the Kanata United Church Library.