tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-39826933817996592212024-03-21T21:41:32.044-04:00Our Affirming Journey - Kanata United ChurchInformation and resources for the people of Kanata United Church, as we continue our journey as an Affirming congregation.AffirmKUChttp://www.blogger.com/profile/02388285954259914332noreply@blogger.comBlogger59125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3982693381799659221.post-25390677104482559422022-12-07T11:06:00.001-05:002022-12-09T14:17:10.532-05:00Advent 2022 - Searching For Joy<p>What do Woman Engineers and Drag Queens have in common? Until recently, I hadn't really thought about it, but two items from CBC on December 6 gave me some clarity. Let me explain.</p><p>In the Christmas Newsletter for KUC, in 2017, there was an appeal for volunteers to join the new Affirm Leadership Team. I looked at it, thought about it, and couldn't not volunteer. In the early seventies, I was an engineering student, one of about 60 woman in the University of Waterloo Faculty of Engineering. I knew about being discriminated against because I was different. I don't think anyone should be treated that way. </p><p>December 6, as we well know, is the Day of Remembrance, the anniversary of the Montreal Massacre. Those 14 women died and 14 more were injured because they were different. When I heard about it, in 1989, I cried for them, and for their hopes and plans, lost to hatred because they were different. I cried again, as I listened to one of the survivors, on As It Happens, this week.</p><p><a href="https://www.cbc.ca/radio/asithappens/nathalie-provost-louise-penny-1.6674734" target="_blank">https://www.cbc.ca/radio/asithappens/nathalie-provost-louise-penny-1.6674734</a></p><p>So, how do Drag Queens fit in?</p><p>Lately there has been organized protests against Drag Queen Storytime and other Drag Queen family focused events. Social media has made it so that groups think that seeing campy people dressed in wild costumes read stories to children, who are often also dressed up in costumes, will somehow cause the children to "turn gay". Some think that the Drag Queens are pedophiles and the storytime is grooming the children. Their solution is to come to these events and scream hatred at the children and their parents. </p><p>A couple of weeks ago, in Vancouver, a storytime at a community centre attracted protesters, but also counter protesters, who sang songs and played instruments to try to drown out the hatred and protect the parents and the children.</p><p><br /></p><p> </p><div class="separator" style="clear: both; text-align: center;"><a href="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEiOSiQHyEhRvajGUj6YMMCXbfHFfq3NetrPa7Cg7LtBfNSrBCk0GiRBT6VO9f_juT12JQTXh1k2uyxSr7K2pmmgHoybt4v83PH5V8tKUUUeAYA1aHCYfAUXUSDyxSRosrsj9vbLaXVQOry0Gm_husjTzLrnwWZESMneNmo-r8Ni64loCnFh-yWFRUmCTw/s493/drag-event-protesters.jpg" style="margin-left: 1em; margin-right: 1em;"><img border="0" data-original-height="225" data-original-width="493" height="146" src="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEiOSiQHyEhRvajGUj6YMMCXbfHFfq3NetrPa7Cg7LtBfNSrBCk0GiRBT6VO9f_juT12JQTXh1k2uyxSr7K2pmmgHoybt4v83PH5V8tKUUUeAYA1aHCYfAUXUSDyxSRosrsj9vbLaXVQOry0Gm_husjTzLrnwWZESMneNmo-r8Ni64loCnFh-yWFRUmCTw/s320/drag-event-protesters.jpg" width="320" /></a></div><br /><a href="https://vancouver.citynews.ca/2022/11/26/kitsilano-drag-queen-story-protest/" target="_blank">https://vancouver.citynews.ca/2022/11/26/kitsilano-drag-queen-story-protest/</a><p></p><p> </p><p>The performers at these events are starting to fear for their safety.</p><p><a href="https://www.cbc.ca/news/canada/kitchener-waterloo/crystal-quartz-drag-show-brunch-1.6674187" target="_blank">https://www.cbc.ca/news/canada/kitchener-waterloo/crystal-quartz-drag-show-brunch-1.6674187 </a></p><p>In the US, protesters at these events have shown up with guns. The pictures are terrifying. After the recent disclosure that there were weapons found in vehicles during the protests here, in February, is it just a matter of time before that happens in Canada at a Drag Queen event? </p><p>We are all made in God's image. I can see the image of God in this picture, and I am sure it can be seen on the faces of the children in the audience. <br /></p><p></p><div class="separator" style="clear: both; text-align: center;"><a href="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEg8PC9e3DnNwhT2Gdt7W6NqNdImv2E56HWk6nsFSUJjqk77Zr_JljP2Cu_rbbYru-EWyPol4WyAzStcakn0e9NDV_G_TxvCNuVtDcqniVmGBpJ7TYWDdwJ9gN72n-bePO0KPUrL3cYwRrGfVxFFPV1mcpoWB7MMvTz5m-8qcq0jfhuVViOdaCRY7-LM7w/s1180/drag2.webp" style="margin-left: 1em; margin-right: 1em;"><img border="0" data-original-height="787" data-original-width="1180" height="213" src="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEg8PC9e3DnNwhT2Gdt7W6NqNdImv2E56HWk6nsFSUJjqk77Zr_JljP2Cu_rbbYru-EWyPol4WyAzStcakn0e9NDV_G_TxvCNuVtDcqniVmGBpJ7TYWDdwJ9gN72n-bePO0KPUrL3cYwRrGfVxFFPV1mcpoWB7MMvTz5m-8qcq0jfhuVViOdaCRY7-LM7w/s320/drag2.webp" width="320" /></a></div><p></p><p>I love the book she is reading, in the picture, It's Okay To Be Different. We need to send a clear message to our community that it is okay to be different, and it is not okay to threaten harm to those who are different from you.</p><p>In the words of William Wadsworth Longfellow</p><p>
<span class="mw-poem-indented" style="display: inline-block; margin-inline-start: 1em;">The Wrong shall fail,</span><br />
<span class="mw-poem-indented" style="display: inline-block; margin-inline-start: 1em;">The Right prevail,</span><br />
With peace on earth, good-will to men.<br /> </p><p>May it be so. <br /></p>AffirmKUChttp://www.blogger.com/profile/02388285954259914332noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3982693381799659221.post-6790001317889103102022-10-20T12:31:00.002-04:002022-10-20T12:31:54.366-04:00CBC Show : Sort Of<p></p><div class="separator" style="clear: both; text-align: center;"><a href="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEhZwO0hC8D4qHQ1bT42iqsd4DkSoToB504suGwuDOEuamTkuboUmx2DnbHlUuqlwpKejPba0HREqjhWWSwrw-8PupyDkkjdOy5eKzSE9VamqiYV_6xmmW5OJmK8GtQG6IT-WZK5p_lqk8useww8ejMmlZQ994zlL34-NhIUFvaDLBXTtlmPulgQ8QTJjQ/s224/cbc_sort_of_s01t01_thumbnail_v03.jpg" imageanchor="1" style="margin-left: 1em; margin-right: 1em;"><img border="0" data-original-height="126" data-original-width="224" height="204" src="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEhZwO0hC8D4qHQ1bT42iqsd4DkSoToB504suGwuDOEuamTkuboUmx2DnbHlUuqlwpKejPba0HREqjhWWSwrw-8PupyDkkjdOy5eKzSE9VamqiYV_6xmmW5OJmK8GtQG6IT-WZK5p_lqk8useww8ejMmlZQ994zlL34-NhIUFvaDLBXTtlmPulgQ8QTJjQ/w363-h204/cbc_sort_of_s01t01_thumbnail_v03.jpg" width="363" /></a></div><br /> <p></p><p> </p><p>CBC TV Show - <b class="">SORT OF</b> - This TV show follows Sabi, a
gender-fluid Pakistani Canadian living in Toronto. </p><p> Broadview magazine
states, it drew "widespread praise for its honest portrayals of queer
and trans people" and won many Canadian awards. </p><p> Watching the 2021
episodes, I found myself laughing out loud. Check it out at <a class="" href="https://gem.cbc.ca/media/sort-of/s01">https://gem.cbc.ca/media/sort-of/s01</a> </p><p>The second season will be released on November 18, 2022.<br /></p>AffirmKUChttp://www.blogger.com/profile/02388285954259914332noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3982693381799659221.post-53685759545029014052022-10-20T12:22:00.004-04:002022-10-20T12:35:16.923-04:00Book Review: love lives here<p></p><div class="separator" style="clear: both; text-align: center;"><a href="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEg4Y_YfWUuNcW1eJI-RQkSgrILUGpUFT7VMkwlMgu60IDjOu4CIyujWmB4P3kmGvfG15PmF6LiykbZTpgryTxR9Yy2b0eXyA4nhNe1i2d4Qo5nMhdPn-t0AYxNMiNGQndjlxX2BLxcUYjYJZKNzOjdsfH_iKpc2MgN-vEbCk0znTvNvN0NdciJye2ZVbQ/s400/loveliveshere.jpg" style="margin-left: 1em; margin-right: 1em;"><img border="0" data-original-height="400" data-original-width="266" height="320" src="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEg4Y_YfWUuNcW1eJI-RQkSgrILUGpUFT7VMkwlMgu60IDjOu4CIyujWmB4P3kmGvfG15PmF6LiykbZTpgryTxR9Yy2b0eXyA4nhNe1i2d4Qo5nMhdPn-t0AYxNMiNGQndjlxX2BLxcUYjYJZKNzOjdsfH_iKpc2MgN-vEbCk0znTvNvN0NdciJye2ZVbQ/s320/loveliveshere.jpg" width="213" /></a></div><br /> <p></p><p>love lives here, A Story of Thriving in a Transgender Family.<br />By Amanda Jetté Knox<br /><br />This is the story of a family of five living in Kanata. Amanda Jetté Knox writes with honesty and sincerity about her family and how they are thriving because they “lead with love”. <br /><br />Her book is a very easy read and has broadened my understanding of people who are transgender in the hope that I may learn to live up to Kanata United’s commitment of being a caring and inclusive community.<br /><br />I highly recommend love lives here. It is suitable for young adults and adults. It is available in the church library and from the Ottawa Library</p><p>Link to Ottawa Public Library :</p><p><a href="https://ottawa.bibliocommons.com/v2/record/S26C1165854" target="_blank">https://ottawa.bibliocommons.com/v2/record/S26C1165854 <br /></a><br /></p>AffirmKUChttp://www.blogger.com/profile/02388285954259914332noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3982693381799659221.post-76555677374236876912022-09-07T11:13:00.001-04:002022-09-07T11:13:23.509-04:00Pride Parade - 2022<p> </p><div class="separator" style="clear: both; text-align: center;"><a href="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEg9upwo2pYirZrEipacIiDpwZHZp5uS4E52i7qaLy_EGT1aK2vCe8jVieFilY9Jlw7LbTw3RvHys8vZOxLAR5h7RScqYofKERtBzZUQNc4Mj1c4MKUWX7EEo69A2sBFGpZOumw4eSaknVAkFMqXrYTuz12Ea9SjnXqCgx2QWVtyvbYOSjD4IH2bw3B7BQ/s320/Kathy2.jpg" imageanchor="1" style="margin-left: 1em; margin-right: 1em;"><img border="0" data-original-height="240" data-original-width="320" height="240" src="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEg9upwo2pYirZrEipacIiDpwZHZp5uS4E52i7qaLy_EGT1aK2vCe8jVieFilY9Jlw7LbTw3RvHys8vZOxLAR5h7RScqYofKERtBzZUQNc4Mj1c4MKUWX7EEo69A2sBFGpZOumw4eSaknVAkFMqXrYTuz12Ea9SjnXqCgx2QWVtyvbYOSjD4IH2bw3B7BQ/s1600/Kathy2.jpg" width="320" /></a></div><br /><p></p><div class="separator" style="clear: both; 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margin-right: 1em;"><img border="0" data-original-height="2000" data-original-width="1500" height="320" src="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEiSGCeGPr8G2rILssD3-9Xf3swpIRDhFc_WV3L5IGhMx0sVoMWZH0_2DQY2t-4dJqtvZV0aVajCor0AMrrBJiho0FddZy4MIZqe826IntjOtJ_uznN-FVUC5WV7MnV30THikdLe-Q7kSOLQcXRpa6Dn9JNNigIdVRlNcuOd-jSQyy5ooMc6nkjJrDnKWg/s320/Joanne4.jpeg" width="240" /></a></div><br /><div class="separator" style="clear: both; text-align: center;"><a href="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEhOu01_6z1k_EnwUa1Intkuw9F6UfULQG0YQE_XZgcCWa3MUhrSsTSlX_zyNAVjxqyk4ZVLw0Wht5KnM6fTTt8kLXbst8d6Zfmf0G1SxQSBXVAUmcJTKYgR_qxhWsSOaf8nkbmXfY9V9r6pVMID83ef9hbifd5DE-R-p9Fxkc6sY3vy3OgfsJnfLLqyaw/s2000/BobR.jpg" imageanchor="1" style="margin-left: 1em; margin-right: 1em;"><img border="0" data-original-height="1500" data-original-width="2000" height="240" src="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEhOu01_6z1k_EnwUa1Intkuw9F6UfULQG0YQE_XZgcCWa3MUhrSsTSlX_zyNAVjxqyk4ZVLw0Wht5KnM6fTTt8kLXbst8d6Zfmf0G1SxQSBXVAUmcJTKYgR_qxhWsSOaf8nkbmXfY9V9r6pVMID83ef9hbifd5DE-R-p9Fxkc6sY3vy3OgfsJnfLLqyaw/s320/BobR.jpg" width="320" /></a></div><p></p><p>Once again, folk from Kanata United walked with other area United Churches as a show of solidarity with the LGBTQ2+ community in Ottawa. This is the third time we have participated in this event. It is a great way to publicly affirm our beliefs.<br /></p><p>Pride parades are very upbeat, loving, and fun activities. If you have never been, think about joining us, next year. <br /></p>AffirmKUChttp://www.blogger.com/profile/02388285954259914332noreply@blogger.com1tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3982693381799659221.post-72633164750044759362022-03-11T12:00:00.001-05:002022-03-11T12:00:00.221-05:00Trying to Turn Back The Clock<p>On March 14, Affirm United asks Affirming congregations to take part in PIE Day. PIE stands for Public, Intentional, and Explicit in our support of all people.</p><p>It is interesting that in the last couple of weeks, some American states have been working to turn back the clock and force young LGBTQ2+ individuals to hide who they are. </p><p>The Florida "Don't Say Gay" law has been featured prominently in the news lately. Here is a balanced view of what it says:</p><p><a href="https://www.forbes.com/sites/carlieporterfield/2022/03/08/dont-say-gay-bill-passes-florida-senate/" target="_blank">https://www.forbes.com/sites/carlieporterfield/2022/03/08/dont-say-gay-bill-passes-florida-senate/</a></p><p>Many young children come from families where their siblings, parents, aunts and uncles, even grandparents are gay. What would educators be doing to these little people, in denying the existence of their family? What are they doing to students who are gay? </p><p>In Texas and many other states, legislators are trying to ban access to gender affirming medical treatments for transgender youth. Texas has gone so far as to call obtaining medical treatment for your child "abuse", threatening to seize children from their parents. </p><p><a href="https://www.washingtonpost.com/politics/2022/03/10/texas-trans-kids-abortion-lgbtq-gender-ideology/" target="_blank">https://www.washingtonpost.com/politics/2022/03/10/texas-trans-kids-abortion-lgbtq-gender-ideology/</a></p><p>In one study 40% of transgender adults reported that they had attempted suicide. Nearly all had attempted suicide before they were 25. These laws can only exacerbate this situation.</p><p>As Affirming Christians, we need to protect all children from those who would try to prevent them from becoming who God meant them to be. We must be public, intentional, and explicit in telling those in authority that we want a world where all children are safe to explore who they are and who they can become.<br /></p>AffirmKUChttp://www.blogger.com/profile/02388285954259914332noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3982693381799659221.post-14854813392451657482021-12-10T06:30:00.001-05:002021-12-10T06:30:00.215-05:00Let's Celebrate!<div class="separator" style="clear: both; text-align: center;"><a href="https://www.landolakes.com/recipe/21329/rainbow-cake/" imageanchor="1" style="margin-left: 1em; margin-right: 1em;" target="_blank"><img border="0" data-original-height="600" data-original-width="600" height="320" src="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/a/AVvXsEgBW5Vo5QU7IMCE_H3031wSXV_m_t-sKrBhk_3_bpcL3r9Mm-sPb-Lr1OmQvp5JmiyNbVTqoGpLHCk0f3G36qG-jw5b_o0mG7ypjGuk9dTCYzQw8F-BL0rl--EtqB23M02i-RjVhygkMwttnDAg4Z96IuderCJHR6253xs1hCZENMxV2wh3yahaGvJj_A=s320" width="320" /></a></div><br /><p>On December 19, we will hold a service of celebration, both in person, in the sanctuary, and on Zoom, to mark the start of our Affirming Ministry. We are inviting other Affirming Congregations to join us. We will have a guest speaker, special music, and we will receive our certificate, designating us as a member congregation of Affirm United. <br /><br />Unfortunately, the cake will have to wait ( we are hoping it can be part of our Pride service in June). So here is a virtual cake, for now. If you click on the picture, it will take you to the recipe, if you would like to make your own.<br /><br /></p>AffirmKUChttp://www.blogger.com/profile/02388285954259914332noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3982693381799659221.post-10666988200115529792021-10-22T08:29:00.001-04:002021-10-22T08:29:27.282-04:00Transgender Youth - In The News<div class=""><br class="" /></div><div class="">Following is a link to
the front page article of the Ottawa Citizen on Tuesday, October 19,
2021, “NEEDS OF TRANS YOUTH”. In the article, Dr. Margaret Lawson, an
endocrinologist at CHEO, draws attention to the need for timely mental
health support for transgender youth. She has been working at CHEO with
trans youths for 16 years and notes that with greater support for trans
youth they may have improved mental health as adults. </div><div class=""><br class="" /></div><div class=""><a class="" href="https://www.google.com/url?sa=t&rct=j&q=&esrc=s&source=web&cd=&ved=2ahUKEwj5wMf969fzAhWAB50JHWfVB8MQFnoECBEQAQ&url=https%3A%2F%2Fottawacitizen.com%2Fnews%2Flocal-news%2Ftrans-youth-need-more-timely-health-care-says-ottawa-researcher&usg=AOvVaw1J1tGpQkwvwdQlI35gOcg9">Trans youth need more timely health care, says Ottawa ...https://ottawacitizen.com › news › local-news › trans-yo…</a></div><div class=""><br class="" /></div><div class=""><br class="" /></div><div class="">On
October 20th the front page article reported on a B.C. man traveling
across Canada to protest hormone therapy for trans youth. Ottawa
Carleton District School Board advised the man would be demonstating at
Broadview Public School. Many parents, students and supporters for
trans people turned out to reassure trans youth that they are loved.
Here is a link to the full article and a youtube interview with some of
those in attendance.</div><div class=""><br class="" /></div><div class=""><br class="" /></div><div class=""><a class="" href="https://ottawacitizen.com/news/local-news/trans-friendly-counter-protesters-drown-out-protester-at-westboro-school">https://ottawacitizen.com/news/local-news/trans-friendly-counter-protesters-drown-out-protester-at-westboro-school</a></div>AffirmKUChttp://www.blogger.com/profile/02388285954259914332noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3982693381799659221.post-88594327195848165472021-08-25T11:30:00.002-04:002021-08-25T11:30:00.205-04:00Book Review - Gay Like Me by Richie Jackson<p> </p><div class="separator" style="clear: both; text-align: center;"><a href="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEgbeW9DZ4fUm3kLcZcvImM8S8GrU0ZsHzBUCR3Pgh-MchiUN0A-eZm43A5FZ6Sgw2N5VG8gNYDTysvyOMjrZHPAxeSf0ki9FZKwF9GjQ_I0ntFUTUyTgTJqXfkiRoqlRr3dv8c5hd3zPhe_/s400/Gay+Like+Me.jpg" imageanchor="1" style="margin-left: 1em; margin-right: 1em;"><img border="0" data-original-height="400" data-original-width="264" height="320" src="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEgbeW9DZ4fUm3kLcZcvImM8S8GrU0ZsHzBUCR3Pgh-MchiUN0A-eZm43A5FZ6Sgw2N5VG8gNYDTysvyOMjrZHPAxeSf0ki9FZKwF9GjQ_I0ntFUTUyTgTJqXfkiRoqlRr3dv8c5hd3zPhe_/s320/Gay+Like+Me.jpg" width="211" /></a></div><p></p><p>Richie Jackson and his first husband had twins boys by a surrogate mother. They were born 3 months premature and one boy died. Some years later the dad’s separated and Richie remarried Jordan. Together they continued to raise their first son and then another. <br /><br />This book is from Richie to their son explaining life in America from one gay man to another. Their son is off to college and Dad wants to impart some knowledge to help along the way. <br /><br />The writing is very honest and direct. Dad is very proud to know his son is gay but wants him also to know that America doesn’t see him as an equal…yet. <br /><br />I appreciated the honesty of this book and Richie’s spirited perspective.</p><p><u>Gay Like Me </u>is available from the Ottawa Public Library.<br /></p>AffirmKUChttp://www.blogger.com/profile/02388285954259914332noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3982693381799659221.post-67457068328505279362021-08-18T11:30:00.004-04:002021-08-18T11:30:00.210-04:00Book Review - The Story of Silence by Alex Myers<div class="separator" style="clear: both; text-align: center;"><a href="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEjhIwQKjbn8K3O-QfF1neIuokmva4U1sR2FFWsmBI9VzS_Uz6gpHAxyvEZU7y1p_BLRI9gmmyhxcCHgcfeok0L9rcTuItxgWeYcQ9MXrUAu2kCbDIS0S9vqiV9wK0DvLz32ButiBUSvq1Ko/s400/The+Story+of+Silence.jpg" imageanchor="1" style="margin-left: 1em; margin-right: 1em;"><img border="0" data-original-height="400" data-original-width="260" height="320" src="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEjhIwQKjbn8K3O-QfF1neIuokmva4U1sR2FFWsmBI9VzS_Uz6gpHAxyvEZU7y1p_BLRI9gmmyhxcCHgcfeok0L9rcTuItxgWeYcQ9MXrUAu2kCbDIS0S9vqiV9wK0DvLz32ButiBUSvq1Ko/s320/The+Story+of+Silence.jpg" width="208" /></a></div><br /><p>The Story of Silence takes place in England in the 13th century. It is about a boy named Silence, who is a girl. Their father raised him as a boy because there was a royal decree that family’s possessions could not be passed to a female. <br /><br />This book is for those who love fantasy with dragons, wizards and serpents. I enjoyed reading a transgender story from centuries ago.</p><p><u>The Story of Silence</u> is available at the Ottawa Public Library as a book and as an e-book.</p><p><br /></p>AffirmKUChttp://www.blogger.com/profile/02388285954259914332noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3982693381799659221.post-89614419615702280382021-08-11T11:30:00.001-04:002021-08-11T11:30:00.199-04:00Book Review - Over the Top by Jonathan Van Ness<p> </p><div class="separator" style="clear: both; text-align: center;"><a href="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEjVydkPGQhjXCOV-ru8ziVnUCcORuB1tTfeVCEeab3snXhYJwoSLwRTjK2oHpJx4tGz3wMb_YtCMl6ffcZA3El3S64vMP-TCul4NTvmrDRn2ZCR59wcEzqKRSinXng9gdjSs-FPuiouP8jf/s400/Over+the+Top.jpg" imageanchor="1" style="margin-left: 1em; margin-right: 1em;"><img border="0" data-original-height="400" data-original-width="266" height="320" src="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEjVydkPGQhjXCOV-ru8ziVnUCcORuB1tTfeVCEeab3snXhYJwoSLwRTjK2oHpJx4tGz3wMb_YtCMl6ffcZA3El3S64vMP-TCul4NTvmrDRn2ZCR59wcEzqKRSinXng9gdjSs-FPuiouP8jf/s320/Over+the+Top.jpg" width="213" /></a></div><p></p><p>Jonathan Van Ness is a hairstylist, podcaster, comedian and television personality living in New York City. <br /><br />As a boy growing up in Midwest USA, he constantly felt he didn’t fit in, was bullied and had to fight to find safety. Then as a teen and adult he moved into self-destruction mode. He needed great courage and determination to be himself. <br /><br />Jonathan is definitely an extrovert, very outlandish and loves every minute of it. I enjoyed his stories as they are wild and let you in on a very different perspective. His perspective helped me to learn and understand. </p><p><br /></p><p><u>Over The Top</u> is available from the Ottawa Public Library as a book, e-book and an audio book.<br /></p>AffirmKUChttp://www.blogger.com/profile/02388285954259914332noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3982693381799659221.post-83603273624487743122021-08-04T11:30:00.003-04:002021-08-04T11:30:00.197-04:00Book Review - She's My Dad by Jonathon S. Williams<p><!--[if gte mso 9]><xml>
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</p><p class="MsoNormal"><span style="font-size: 16.0pt; mso-ansi-language: EN-CA;"> </span></p><div class="separator" style="clear: both; text-align: center;"><a href="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEh8cnF0tLySLsleNDDgHjrkM5RDOemKfr0b1c4XkT387PR1jNSBlaTdQeNdeGi_8sZO0AaWx4BJZevUttZUAJMTgZG3Ge-9QV77ONtqzILZLp7Uxi4L9VbiqgYo6ZFf0ZKl-GCinCo3ia9Y/s475/She%2527s+My+Dad.jpg" imageanchor="1" style="margin-left: 1em; margin-right: 1em;"><img border="0" data-original-height="475" data-original-width="307" height="320" src="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEh8cnF0tLySLsleNDDgHjrkM5RDOemKfr0b1c4XkT387PR1jNSBlaTdQeNdeGi_8sZO0AaWx4BJZevUttZUAJMTgZG3Ge-9QV77ONtqzILZLp7Uxi4L9VbiqgYo6ZFf0ZKl-GCinCo3ia9Y/s320/She%2527s+My+Dad.jpg" width="207" /></a></div><br /><p></p><p class="MsoNormal"><span style="font-size: 16.0pt; mso-ansi-language: EN-CA;"> <br /></span></p><p class="MsoNormal"><span style="font-size: 16.0pt; mso-ansi-language: EN-CA;">The
author of this book, Jonathan S. Williams, is a pastor at a church in Brooklyn
N.Y.<span style="mso-spacerun: yes;"> </span>His Dad, Paula Stone Williams, is
also a pastor.</span></p>
<p class="MsoNormal"><span style="font-size: 16.0pt; mso-ansi-language: EN-CA;"> </span></p>
<p class="MsoNormal"><span style="font-size: 16.0pt; mso-ansi-language: EN-CA;">As a
married man, with a young son, Jonathan’s father Paul announces to all the
family that he can no longer live as a man.<span style="mso-spacerun: yes;">
</span>Paul first told his wife, then his grown daughters and last made the
trip from Denver to Brooklyn to speak with his son, Jonathan. </span></p>
<p class="MsoNormal"><span style="font-size: 16.0pt; mso-ansi-language: EN-CA;"> </span></p>
<p class="MsoNormal"><span style="font-size: 16.0pt; mso-ansi-language: EN-CA;">All
Jonathan’s life he has looked up to his father and followed in his Dad’s
footsteps to become a pastor.<span style="mso-spacerun: yes;"> </span>His
father is his most trusted confidante.<span style="mso-spacerun: yes;">
</span>While both men are open to the concept of LGBTQ, this news is
devastating to Jonathan.<span style="mso-spacerun: yes;"> </span></span></p>
<p class="MsoNormal"><span style="font-size: 16.0pt; mso-ansi-language: EN-CA;"> </span></p>
<p class="MsoNormal"><span style="font-size: 16.0pt; mso-ansi-language: EN-CA;">She’s
My Dad includes letters between father and son and describes Jonathan’s grief over
losing his Dad and learning to accept his father, Paula. </span></p>
<p class="MsoNormal"><span style="font-size: 16.0pt; mso-ansi-language: EN-CA;"> </span></p>
<p class="MsoNormal"><span style="font-size: 16.0pt; mso-ansi-language: EN-CA;">I
recommend this book for its insight into transition and how one’s transition
affects oneself and each member of a family.<span style="mso-spacerun: yes;">
</span></span></p>
<p class="MsoNormal"><span style="font-size: 16.0pt; mso-ansi-language: EN-CA;"><u>She's My Dad</u> is available in the Kanata United Church Library.<br /></span></p>
AffirmKUChttp://www.blogger.com/profile/02388285954259914332noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3982693381799659221.post-26836852700776144812021-06-16T22:57:00.001-04:002021-06-16T22:57:32.625-04:00Robert's Reflection on Our Journey <p> </p><div class="separator" style="clear: both; text-align: center;"><a href="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEiYdinWGWFj0mgBXtYkF65WiW2lnnrYzwxTK6f6u1KhD57JnjpEI4S22n_6b1jflmFgkPNXW-bKAm37UlkbdSVVxeWBtkk6NPQFj2xwGzjN5bpOURVyw7ZURmSg0oYWSlEMTjeRmMMzbuCO/s1217/IMG_20210613_091103.jpg" style="margin-left: 1em; margin-right: 1em;"><img border="0" data-original-height="913" data-original-width="1217" src="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEiYdinWGWFj0mgBXtYkF65WiW2lnnrYzwxTK6f6u1KhD57JnjpEI4S22n_6b1jflmFgkPNXW-bKAm37UlkbdSVVxeWBtkk6NPQFj2xwGzjN5bpOURVyw7ZURmSg0oYWSlEMTjeRmMMzbuCO/s320/IMG_20210613_091103.jpg" width="320" /></a></div><br /><p></p><p> </p><p>On June 13, Robert Ashton gave a reflection on our Affirm Discernment, in advance of the special congregational meeting. We are posting it here.</p><p>It is hard to imagine that some 40 months ago, Kanata United Church overwhelmingly supported an intentional educational discernment process to explore becoming an Affirming Ministry. We’ve been through a lot. Our original journey was envisioned to last 24 months but when a pandemic gets in your way, you make adjustments. Reverend Cindy Casey, Kathy Beamish, Kate Chamberlain, Margaret McGarry, Muriel Richards and myself are your affirm leadership team that have put so much heart into our journey. I am so very proud of this congregation in how they have embraced open conversation, topics that have stretched our understanding, being uncomfortable and growing. At the beginning we were pre-occupied with wondering why we were doing this and isn’t being welcoming enough? We explored gender identities, faced the reality that many beyond our walls search for safe spaces, we learned new vocabulary and I am hoping that most of you now know what LGBTQ2S means – Lesbian, Gay, Bisexual, Transgender, Questioning and 2 spirited. We’ve shared many stories and experiences and heard numerous personal testimonials of how this affects so many both right here at KUC and beyond. We have received tremendous support from Council, committees, staff and many volunteers who have woven our affirming messages so intricately into so many facets of KUC. And yes sometimes it has been uncomfortable, we’ve laughed, listened, questioned and cried. Over the past few weeks Cindy has led us through an evening three-part conversation on our past, present and future. Our youth during each session asked so many wonderful questions and provided such rich observations and points to consider – I have so much hope for our future.</p><p><br />Affirming Ministries Program is a network of United Church of Canada Communities of Faith, Regional Councils, educational centres, camps, and chaplaincies that declare themselves to be fully inclusive of people of all sexual orientations and gender identities. It asks each ministry to take the appropriate action and study and discern what it means to be publicly welcoming and fully inclusive. An Affirming Ministry goes beyond merely “welcoming” and opens our hearts and supports those whom the church has ignored, excluded or even condemned. Today, KUC will make a decision on whether to become such an Affirming Ministry.</p><p><br />As I stated earlier, we know KUC is already welcoming – this community of faith is awesome! Canada and Canadians are also welcoming and what abundance and privilege we enjoy in this vast land. We all know this. But then how in a country that is so welcoming, open, safe and the envy of the world, do we continue to struggle with reconciliation, islamophobia, homophobia and transphobia. In 2019 police reported 263 hate crimes targeting sexual orientation – some people will shrug and think that isn’t too many, but when I indicate to you that this is a 41% increase from 2018, does that get your attention? 1 hate crime is too much. The reality as well is that the majority of hate crimes go unreported. This week in Mississauga, two teens were charged for removing and burning a pride flag. They further took a video and sent it to LGBTQ2S students of this high school – laughing and mocking – imagine the significant negative impact on the wellbeing of the youth in a school space that is meant to be safe, affirming and supportive receiving that video from their peers. Where does this hate come from? This same week, in Toronto a man and a friend were attacked by a group of people which started off by hurling homophobic insults and quickly turned violent – the one victim, who is gay, is hospitalized with a concussion and several broken bones. One of the perpetrators under investigation is CFL Ottawa Redblacks player Chris Larsen, aren’t our football players supposed to be role models? In a country as safe and accepting as Canada, in a city as diverse as Toronto, why are our communities not safe? Again, where does this hate come from? As the bible teaches us, aren’t we supposed to stand by those who are marginalized or threatened? </p><p> <br />In our public education spaces across Canada in some jurisdictions we have seen curtailing of advancements in curriculum as it relates to gender identity and sexual orientations. Politicians and special interest groups have embraced language that creates enabling environments where people are given “permission to hate” – this has been increasingly evidenced in the United States, Europe and here in Canada where political groups and segments of society are pitted against one another through very intentional disinformation and misinformation campaigns and the darkness of social media.</p><p> <br />So we as a community of faith, what is our role in all of this? Is it enough to be just welcoming to everyone that walks through our doors? What do we owe our community around us? Is our focus for future generations simply good enough to be welcoming? The reality is that many conservative Christians have and continue to cause a great deal of suffering to those identifying with other sexual orientations by excluding and marginalizing them, promoting conversion therapy, boycotting gay-friendly corporations, banning marriage, damaging bonds between families and using their power and influence to claim to represent the bible and speak for God – they view affirming ministries as moral failures.</p><p> <br />Now if Jesus were here today I wonder, what words of wisdom he would share. I like to think that Jesus didn’t always side with the bible and his teachings were sometimes at odds with the way. Jesus for certain hanged with the outcast and questioned authority, much to the dismay of the establishment. I for one would hope that he would put to rest that the bible verses of Leviticus and others used to condemn LGBTQ2S people today are taken out of context and that as many scholars now believe were translated and drafted on bias and rather instead relate to marital infidelity and rape – not the condemnation of homosexuality. <br />Harvey Milk, stated that “If you are not personally free to be yourself in that most important of all human activities... the expression of love... then life itself loses its meaning”. </p><p> <br />There are many that dream of being part of a Christian community that is diverse, inclusive and a safe space that goes beyond welcoming. So by becoming Affirm, does it mean that KUC then becomes known as a gay church or that all of our programming will then be LGBTQ2S themed or that all members will have to attend the annual Ottawa pride parade – absolutely not. The wide variety of KUC programs, worship experiences, justice initiatives, outreach will all continue – there is room to incorporate affirming actions and we can make space for that too. The motion and supporting motions that will be put towards you will allow the decision to be made, will KUC become an official Affirming Ministry or will we end our intentional educational discernment affirm journey. There are no do-overs or lets continue to explore and discuss. Today is the day. </p><p><br />For some the choice is easy. For other, it may be a difficult decision and maybe you just don’t know. If you are struggling or conflicted or are unsure, I would ask you to think of your family, neighbours, future generations or just maybe, that slight possibility to imagine where KUC could be known as a safe space, where someone who is LGBTQ2S is struggling to find acceptance and love and where we as a community of faith can make life for that individual just a little bit easier – right here at Kanata United Church – a visible sign, like a rainbow of bright vibrant colours and as a sign that you are accepted, you are included, you are loved and you have a place right here. And lastly, I firmly believe, as Jesus experienced rejection and judgement, isn’t this what Jesus has called us to do and be. May the acceptance, inclusivity and openness of the spirit, Jesus and our creator shepherd us as we consider our ministry. Amen. <br /></p>AffirmKUChttp://www.blogger.com/profile/02388285954259914332noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3982693381799659221.post-33130849792282780192021-06-09T11:31:00.001-04:002021-06-09T11:31:22.422-04:00Westport Raises Pride Flags<p> </p><div class="">Driving through Westport this week you’ll notice Pride
flags flying. Wesport residents, Jessica Roberts and Neil Kudrinko
asked Westport Council to declare an official Pride Week, and raise a
Pride flag. As they told CBC's Robyn Bresnahan, “It needs to be said
outwardly that you are welcome here, you are safe here, and that your
community has your back”. People who identify as LGBTQ2+ need to know
they are safe and Westport is showing that! </div><div class=""><br class="" /></div><div class="">When you are in Westport, Kudrinko’s grocer is an excellent store. For a start, try the cheese bread they bake daily.</div><div class=""><br class="" /></div><div class=""><br class="" /></div><div class="placeholder"><img class="" height="360" src="https://i.cbc.ca/1.6044490.1622228556!/fileImage/httpImage/image.JPG_gen/derivatives/16x9_780/jessica-roberts-and-neil-kudrinko.JPG" title="Jessica Roberts, left, and Neil Kudrinko, right have asked Wesport to erect a 'progress' Pride flag as a sign of support and inclusion. In addition to rainbow stripes, it includes a chevron meant to include BIPOC and trans people within the LGBTQ community. (Hallie Cotnam/CBC) >" width="640" /> </div><div class="placeholder"> </div><div class="placeholder"> <div class=""><figcaption class="image-caption">Jessica
Roberts, left, and Neil Kudrinko, right have asked Wesport to erect a
'progress' Pride flag as a sign of support and inclusion. In addition to
rainbow stripes, it includes a chevron meant to include BIPOC and trans
people within the LGBTQ community. (Hallie Cotnam/CBC)</figcaption></div><div class=""><br class="" /></div><div class=""><div class=""><br class="" /></div><div class=""><figcaption class="image-caption"><a href="https://www.cbc.ca/listen/live-radio/1-100-ottawa-morning/clip/15846156-lgbtq-experience-small-town-ontario-leads-request-action" target="_blank">https://www.cbc.ca/listen/live-radio/1-100-ottawa-morning/clip/15846156-lgbtq-experience-small-town-ontario-leads-request-action</a><br /></figcaption></div></div></div>AffirmKUChttp://www.blogger.com/profile/02388285954259914332noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3982693381799659221.post-24106506772826083582021-06-04T15:47:00.000-04:002021-06-04T15:47:02.722-04:00Let's Chat - June 3 - Imagining the Future<p>Our last Let's Chat focused on what a future as an Affirming Ministry might look like at Kanata United.</p><p>We first talked about outward signs to our community. Ideas included rainbow crosswalks, inviting the community to use our outdoor space, signs, flags. Most of the ideas involved letting the community know that ours is a safe space. </p><p>We moved inward, to how we might show inclusion in our physical space, our groups and committees, and our worship. Learning to use inclusive language, continuing our efforts with learning events, the Affirm table, the library, and symbols on the bulletin boards and in our worship spaces. Music has always had a big presence in our church community and this is another place we can show inclusion.<br /></p><p>Moving outside our space, we tried to dream big. Ideas included advocacy for seniors, helping LTC workers understand the issues, working toward an inclusive retirement residence. We also talked about working with local schools to provide resources, and space. Refugee sponsorship for people in danger because of their sexual orientation. </p><p>We also discussed whether being openly affirming might dissuade people from coming to our church. </p><p>The Affirm Leadership Team would like to thank everyone who came to our "Let's Chat" sessions. You came, you talked, you were open and thoughtful. The group was made up of a wide representation of the congregation, all ages, old faces, and new. We feel ready, now, to move ahead with our congregational meeting on June 13.</p><p>We ask that you read the letter that we sent out this week, and "come" to church on June 13, as we vote on becoming an Affirming Ministry.<br /></p>AffirmKUChttp://www.blogger.com/profile/02388285954259914332noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3982693381799659221.post-29622665641146444732021-05-28T14:40:00.002-04:002021-05-28T14:40:59.864-04:00Let's Chat - May 27 - The Present<p>For those who were unable to participate in the "Let's Chat" discussion on May 27, focused on "The Present", here is a summary of the topics we discussed. I hope you will think about how you might have responded to these topics.</p><p>We started by looking at the world outside of Canada. In many countries in the world, same-sex relationships are still illegal and in some countries, the offense carries a death penalty. Canada was the first country in the world to recognize danger due to sexual orientation as grounds for a refugee claim. </p><p>We next discussed "conversion therapy" which is the practice of trying to change an individual's sexual orientation using psychological, physical or spiritual interventions. Many of the practitioners of this "therapy' are ministers, or claim to be called by God. Parents often coerce their children into this "therapy" by telling them that they are not welcome in the family unless they change who they are. conversion therapy has lead to mental illness, homelessness, addiction and suicide in young people. In Canada, a bill banning this is currently in third reading.</p><p>We moved on to a discussion of Charter Rights in Canada. While the Charter promises equality regardless of sexual orientation, it also guarantees religious freedom, and these two guarantees are often at odds. Some examples are seen within religious based schools. Churches may discriminate based on sexual orientation.</p><p>We spent some time talking about young people and the kinds of initiatives are occurring within schools. We also touched on the internet and how social networking can be a good place for marginalized groups to get together, as well as a place where harm and abuse can occur.</p><p>Finally, we recognized that there is still work to be done for seniors. Same-sex couples in committed long term relationships are often forced to hide their orientation when one of the couple must move to long term care. The relationship is often not recognized or accommodated by the facility. </p><p>We again finished with a discussion of how the vote to become an affirming ministry will be organized on June 13. We were all asked to tell 5 people about what is happening, and invite them to participate.</p><p>Our final "Let's Chat" session will be held on June 3 @7PM . At that time, we will talk about "The Future" and where becoming an affirming ministry could take us as a congregation. Please join us.<br /></p>AffirmKUChttp://www.blogger.com/profile/02388285954259914332noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3982693381799659221.post-20961519667147755002021-05-21T19:39:00.005-04:002021-05-21T19:39:46.576-04:00Let's Chat - May 20 - The Past<p> For those who were unable to attend the May 20th "Let's Chat", this is a summary of the topics we discussed, with a focus on "the past". I hope you consider these topics and think about what your own answers would be.</p><p>We started out discussing what we may have been taught or knew about LGBTQ2+ when we were growing up. Was it sinful? Was it a mental illness? Were you taught one thing in Church and another at home?</p><p>Next we moved to the discussions and the eventual 1988 United Church General Council declaration that "all persons, regardless of sexual
orientation, who profess their faith in Jesus Christ are welcome to be
or become members of The United Church of Canada" and that "all members
of the United Church are eligible to be considered for ordered
ministry." </p><p>Those who were attending KUC at this time, talked about the discussions at that time within our congregation, and how that made them feel.</p><p>We continued to the discussions and vote on same-sex marriage in about 2006. Again those who attended those discussions talked about their feelings.</p><p>We reflected on the divisions these two decisions caused within our congregation. We talked about what might happen after the Affirm vote.</p><p>As we wrapped up, we were asked to think about how we would never be asked to explicitly vote to include Blacks, Indigenous, or women, and why LGBTQ2+ might be different.</p><p>We finished with an outline of the parameters of the vote on June 13 when we will finally vote on becoming an Affirming Ministry.<br /></p><p>We hope you can join us for our next"Let's Chat" session, May 27 at 7PM, when we will explore "the present".<br /></p>AffirmKUChttp://www.blogger.com/profile/02388285954259914332noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3982693381799659221.post-7080373744950465342021-05-05T15:25:00.001-04:002021-05-21T19:40:07.692-04:00Pensions and Same Sex Spouses - CN<p> On Monday, CBC reported a story about a man who had been denied a survivor's pension from CN because when his same sex partner had retired from CN in 1991, the pension plan did not recognize same sex relationships.</p><p>You can read the story here:</p><p><a href="https://www.cbc.ca/news/canada/newfoundland-labrador/ken-haire-cn-rail-harbour-grace-same-sex-marriage-1.6008873" target="_blank">https://www.cbc.ca/news/canada/newfoundland-labrador/ken-haire-cn-rail-harbour-grace-same-sex-marriage-1.6008873</a></p><p> </p><p>Today, CN revised their position.</p><p>Read about it here:</p><p><a href="https://www.cbc.ca/news/canada/newfoundland-labrador/cn-updates-pension-same-sex-partners-1.6014784" target="_blank">https://www.cbc.ca/news/canada/newfoundland-labrador/cn-updates-pension-same-sex-partners-1.6014784 </a></p><p> </p><p>Sometimes, just shining a light on an inequity can cause change.</p><p> <br /></p>AffirmKUChttp://www.blogger.com/profile/02388285954259914332noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3982693381799659221.post-77988089924379534372021-03-03T14:24:00.001-05:002021-03-03T14:24:09.681-05:00Coming Out to Parents<p> Being a member of the LGBTQ2+ community can lead to many risks and challenges to one's health, safety and overall well-being. Most parents are very aware of these risks. They long to protect their children from this. However, parents have a vital role to play in helping your children in their coming out. <br /><br />For many LGBTQ2 the most difficult decision is to come out to family. The family is a primary support to children and youth and the need for acceptance and love when coming out is so very important. The research is clear that those youth who do not receive love and acceptance when coming out are more susceptible to suicide, substance abuse and have difficulty establishing trusting and lasting relationships. <br /><br />A Mexican Doritos commercial "El mejor regalo" which means "the best gift" is based on a true story and went viral over the holidays reaching more than 15 million on Youtube alone. The story lovingly illustrates the actions that a father takes to support his son - take a look and grab a tissue.<br /><br /><a href="https://www.out.com/media/2021/1/06/father-embraces-gay-son-and-his-boyfriend-sweet-doritos-ad " target="_blank">https://www.out.com/media/2021/1/06/father-embraces-gay-son-and-his-boyfriend-sweet-doritos-ad </a><br /><br />Additional resources for families and parents: <br /><br /><a href="https://www.thelinkottawa.ca/en/sexual-health/coming-out.aspx" target="_blank">https://www.thelinkottawa.ca/en/sexual-health/coming-out.aspx</a> </p><p> <br /><a href="https://pflagcanada.ca/" target="_blank">https://pflagcanada.ca/</a> </p><p><br /><a href="https://www.strongfamilyalliance.org/" target="_blank">https://www.strongfamilyalliance.org/</a> <br /></p>AffirmKUChttp://www.blogger.com/profile/02388285954259914332noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3982693381799659221.post-20316739150430393692021-02-10T14:11:00.004-05:002021-02-10T14:19:45.687-05:00Declaring the Sanctity of Life & Dignity of All<p>On December 16th, 2020 a groundbreaking event was held in London, England to declare the sanctity and dignity of LGBT+ lives. It was attended in person and virtually by religious leaders from around the world. A Declaration was initiated at the meetiing seeking to end worldwide discrimination against LGBT+ including practices such as conversion therapy and crimiinalization of LGBT+ lives.<br /> <br />Over 370 religious leaders from numerous religions in 35 countries have signed the Declaration. The signatories include Archbishop Desmond Tutu, and eight other archbishops, the Catholic former president of Ireland Mary McAleese, more than 60 rabbis, and senior Muslims, Sikhs, Hindus and Buddhists.<br /><br /><br />At the same meeting, a Global Interfaith Commission on LGBT+ Lives was established. The purposes of the Commission include providing the authoritative voices of religious leaders seeking an end to discrimination against LGBT+ people worldwide.<br /><br />The following link will take you to a short video showing some of these leaders speaking the words of the Declaration. The video is on the Commission website. Signatures of religious leaders continue to be gathered there. <br /><a href="https://globalinterfaith.lgbt" target="_blank">https://globalinterfaith.lgbt</a><br /> <br />It should be noted that the Commission and the Declaration were celebrated at Westminster Abbey. This event was led by the Deans of Westminster and St. Paul's Cathedral and backed by the Government of the U.K. The worldwide Anglican Communion continues to be split over whether to acknowledge LGBT+ rights and full participation in Anglican life. Furthermore many religions worldwide do not acknowledge LGBT+ rights at all. The Declaration signatories are working to change this tragic situation.<br /><br />We remain in hope that the new year will bring new acceptance for LGBTQ+ people worldwide and look forward to when we can meet with KUC members to determine KUC's commitment to becoming an Affirming Congregation within the United Church of Canada'. <br /><br />Further pertinent articles may be found at:<br /><a href="https://www.theguardian.com/world/2020/dec/16/senior-faith-leaders-call-for-global-decriminalisation-of-lgbt-people?CMP=Share_iOSApp_Other" target="_blank">https://www.theguardian.com/world/2020/dec/16/senior-faith-leaders-call-for-global-decriminalisation-of-lgbt-people?CMP=Share_iOSApp_Other<br /></a><br /><a href="https://www.msn.com/en-us/news/world/religious-leaders-call-for-global-ban-on-gay-conversion-therapies/ar-BB1bYPvd?fbclid=IwAR3tcRZtaZWvlqvOU-AEgVatsmhgREAE_V3cS14PrV3NQiIB--tcasmjq8g" target="_blank">https://www.msn.com/en-us/news/world/religious-leaders-call-for-global-ban-on-gay-conversion-therapies/ar-BB1bYPvd?fbclid=IwAR3tcRZtaZWvlqvOU-AEgVatsmhgREAE_V3cS14PrV3NQiIB--tcasmjq8g</a><br /> </p>AffirmKUChttp://www.blogger.com/profile/02388285954259914332noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3982693381799659221.post-77949609963528963122021-01-21T11:06:00.002-05:002021-01-21T11:06:16.316-05:00Twenty Years of Same Sex Marriage<p>On January 14, 2001, the first same sex marriage was celebrated in Canada. </p><p>You can read the original Toronto Star story, here:</p><p><a href="https://www.thestar.com/news/gta/2021/01/14/from-the-archives-tears-kisses-and-a-standing-ovation-as-two-gay-couples-tie-the-knot-and-make-history.html">https://www.thestar.com/news/gta/2021/01/14/from-the-archives-tears-kisses-and-a-standing-ovation-as-two-gay-couples-tie-the-knot-and-make-history.html</a></p><p>Happily, both couples are still together! <br /></p>AffirmKUChttp://www.blogger.com/profile/02388285954259914332noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3982693381799659221.post-11948854036128387042020-10-07T14:00:00.000-04:002020-10-07T14:00:21.686-04:00Coming Out Day - October 11<p> </p><div class="separator" style="clear: both; text-align: center;"><a href="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEh73Zg18KB0nBoz9fBntfi4ewGjip7HWCxJ5bek9d32Iu5nqESu-kYFHXDmbBr9hMbOgR4r3xvuK6Uh4dV6UINfm4k31ioqToH14WqxMSNzk_QT90j4fAMLB4OszNIVFENnKasdDVPSDHl6/s500/Comingout.jpg" imageanchor="1" style="margin-left: 1em; margin-right: 1em;"><img border="0" data-original-height="500" data-original-width="500" height="320" src="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEh73Zg18KB0nBoz9fBntfi4ewGjip7HWCxJ5bek9d32Iu5nqESu-kYFHXDmbBr9hMbOgR4r3xvuK6Uh4dV6UINfm4k31ioqToH14WqxMSNzk_QT90j4fAMLB4OszNIVFENnKasdDVPSDHl6/s320/Comingout.jpg" /></a></div><br /><p></p><p> </p><p>October 11 is recognized as National Coming Out Day, a way to bring awareness to this sometimes scary, stressful, but important time in the lives of LGBTQ2+ people. </p><p>Parents, and grandparents are often fell concerned that they might say the wrong thing when a child or grandchild comes out to them. </p><p>This YouTube video tries to help.</p><p>Does and Don'ts When Your Child Comes Out to You <br /></p><p><a href="https://youtu.be/eSY3q6GH1jg">https://youtu.be/eSY3q6GH1jg</a><br /></p>AffirmKUChttp://www.blogger.com/profile/02388285954259914332noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3982693381799659221.post-86401402930672056242020-04-29T10:12:00.000-04:002020-04-29T10:12:30.307-04:00She's Not There : A Book Review<u>She’s Not There</u> by Jennifer Finney Boylan<br />
<br />Jenny wrote her memoir, She’s Not There, in 2003. In it, she tells her story of growing up in a loving family as James Boylan, marrying Grace and together having two sons. At the age of 40, James is unable to continue living as a man and begins his transition to being a woman, Jenny.<br />
<br />Before transitioning James talks with his wife, his mother, and his best friend.<br />
<br />James wife, Grace, is heartbroken to loose her husband, and their family life, with him as a man. James mother, now in her later years and a conservative Christian woman, wrapped her arms around James and told him, love will prevail. His best friend, Richard, is completely shocked and pledges support. <br /><br />This is a very sensitive, well-written book of love, kindness and commitment. I highly recommend it as a great read from Kanata United’s library. <br />AffirmKUChttp://www.blogger.com/profile/02388285954259914332noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3982693381799659221.post-70157376134394406632020-03-04T08:54:00.000-05:002020-03-04T08:54:14.633-05:00Affirming Transfiguration<b>If you missed Robert Ashton's reflection from Transfiguration Sunday, Feb. 23, 202, you can read it here.</b><br />
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Transfiguration Sunday is when we remember how Jesus was changed in front of the disciples while they were on the mountain together. Jesus’ clothes became dazzling white and he transformed right before their eyes and they didn’t know what to make of this experience. Jesus was different and he was accepted – there was no judgement.<br />
<br />Two years ago, Kanata United Church embarked on an educational discernment process exploring becoming an affirming ministry – today, we witness that we are no longer the same congregation as we were. We’ve been challenged in our understandings, the vocabulary we use, our worship traditions, how we welcome others, a greater appreciation of the LGBTQ2 community and their unique set of challenges – we have at times been uncomfortable, had to be empathetic and stretched our understanding. Last week Cindy illustrated what the church would be like if it did not change or evolve – many of us probably wouldn’t be here if we were stuck and static and maintained the status quo or held on to broken traditions – how out of touch with reality and society would we be with no change? Change is difficult and there are some that will resist the current and be slightly hesitant – to those individuals I say thank you – we need you, your insights, sober second thought which makes us go cautiously into the unknown and your voice is important and often of good reason or questioning. What an amazing amount of progress we’ve all made in such a short amount of time.<br />
<br />Things change. Traditions evolve. New patterns and trends emerge. Society moves along. You and I grow.<br />
<br />In a few weeks, Kanata United Church will make a decision on becoming an affirming ministry or not. If the decision is in favour, this will allow us to continue to expand our understanding and broaden our connections with the LGBTQ2 community and ensure we are recognized as a safe space. People are searching for a Christian community that welcomes all through inclusivity and celebrates diversity – affirming ministries is a good news story and I’m hopeful it’s something we will be able to share. I cannot underline how very important a decision this is for the congregation, future Kanata United Church generations and the community. Today, I would like to expand on why. <br />I often wonder if put in a position of decision around affirming ministries, what would Jesus do? What advice would be offered? Do we contemplate when making decisions on what Jesus would do?<br />
<br />Repeat after me: Anxiety. Depression. Bullying. Loneliness. Homelessness. Suicide. <br />
<br />What do these words have in common? All of these are significantly more prevalent within the LGBTQ2 community than faced by my heterosexual brothers and sisters – most alarming, in Canada, LGBTQ2 youth are 14x more likely to attempt suicide or have substance abuse issues than their heterosexual peers. A true shocker, 77% of transgender people in Ontario have seriously considered suicide and 45% have attempted it – if almost ½ of the people in church today had attempted to end their own life – look around – just visualize that for a moment – if that happened here, what would our response be? Non-acceptance and the aftershocks, especially for LGBTQ2 youth are a societal crisis. Jesus hurts.<br />
<br />I understand, it’s them, it’s not me, what more can I do? Legislation has been passed to protect, money set aside for programs, adoption and marriage rights extended, hate crime units established, gay-straight alliances formed, affirming ministries created, gay pride week, fancy rainbow decorations and public opinion is solidly on my side – one just needs to watch TV to see there’s an LGBTQ2 character in practically every show – thank you so much Ellen – so haven’t we already done enough? Well if we’ve done enough, why do these numbers continue to increase? Why do so many hurt? Do you know somebody of the LGBTQ2 community that has attempted or ended their own life? I do, and I need more than one hand to count the acquaintances and friends lost to suicide. In my humble opinion – it comes down to one word – acceptance.<br />
<br />By a show of hands, how many people have successfully tried to change the colour of your skin? How tall you are? Some of us have been successful to change our weight, myself not so much for the better. Now hair colour that’s an easy change – how many have tried that? Is it permanent? For us extroverts, could you imagine being asked to do everything you could to be an introvert? Have you ever been asked to change your sexuality or hide your gender identity? How difficult could that be? The majority here today are heterosexual – could you imagine being put into a nurturing program to eradicate how you identify or love and being educated to turn yourself into a positive homosexual? Well conversion therapy might be right for you.<br />
<br />Since it has therapy in its name, must be good right? Conversion therapy is the practice of trying to change an individual's sexual orientation using psychological or spiritual interventions. Now modern conversion therapy has gotten a bad rap, so has gone underground and can be found under new terminology: reparative therapy, talk therapy, aversion therapy, cure therapy or gender coaching – all are equally damaging and prey on the most vulnerable – mainly our youth.<br />
<br />Facing the awakening of sexual identity and the confusion that comes with teen years, LGBTQ2 youth that are not part of a supportive family, or have access to resources or are told that being gay is a sin are very often given a stark choice – do conversion therapy or face judgement and abandonment. Scared, youth will often then turn to their key influencers for guidance and support and in many instances confused parents will support conversion therapy. Needing acceptance, facing homelessness and not wanting to disappoint their parents – conversion therapy appears to be their only choice. Jesus cringes.<br />
<br />If youth do not know that they have loving support from family and friends or safe spaces in their schools and churches and do not receive positive responses to coming out which means true acceptance – conversion therapy on the surface looks like a quick ticket to salvation. What follows however, is a lifelong sentence. <br />
<br />The Williams Institute, which is a public policy research institute at the UCLA School of Law in California, estimates that almost 700,000 LGBTQ2 adults in the United States have received conversion therapy, that 20,000 youth will receive conversion therapy from a licensed health care professional and that 57,000 youth will receive conversion therapy from a religious or spiritual advisor before the age of 18. It is heart wrenching that our youth will be subjected to this by their churches – there is nowhere in Jesus teachings that this would be accepted. <br />
<br />The Canadian Psychological Association, warned in a 2015 statement that, conversion therapy can result in negative outcomes, such as hopelessness, shame, social withdrawal, suicide, substance abuse, stress, disappointment, self-blame, self-hatred, hostility toward parents, feelings of anger and betrayal, loss of friends and potential romantic partners, problems in sexual and emotional intimacy, a feeling of being dehumanized and untrue to self and a loss of faith. There is nothing in that list of outcomes that aligns with acceptance, affirming, love, positivity or support – why are we subjecting our youth to this so-called therapy? Jesus weeps.<br />
<br />BUT conversion therapy only occurs in the US bible belt, right? FACT CHECK, in Canada, only Manitoba, Nova Scotia and Ontario have banned conversion therapy. The federal government is exploring slowly a full ban and municipalities are starting and the United Church and Affirm United have been raising awareness. Exposing and banning conversion therapy is the new frontier for LGBTQ2 allies. It is why I am passionate about making Kanata United Church a safe space – if we can make the difference and demonstrate radical acceptance for one person, one youth, one future child – we’ve made a positive difference to them and their family.<br />
<br />It does come down to acceptance. In June I lost my mom to cancer at the age of 70. She was my biggest champion, advocate and supporter – in later years of high school I first came out to Mom – I was able to talk to her about everything and I now realize it must have been so strange for her back then in southwestern Ontario in the early 90s as a single mom, strongly rooted in her church, but with confidence and a smile she offered her love and unconditional support – which as a gay teen you fear losing the love of your Mom the most – she demonstrated true acceptance and created a safe space. I appreciate now that things could have turned out so differently for me. Mom became an early advocate ensuring that others when speaking of gays and lesbians did so with respect, she lost friends over it and I know she helped many other parents whose children have had the very same discussions helping them through this transition. For a child – the security and absolute knowing that you are loved and accepted comes from a parent – I’ve in a way lost that now. <br />
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From time to time that teenage angst and insecurity of feeling and fear of being alone and vulnerable rises within me – where will I be accepted or loved – so I long for what was and I search for the next best thing – which is right here in this space – my Kanata United Church family, where I want to know that there is acceptance, that there is a place for me and who I am, that a rainbow can be viewed with pride and love and that this be an affirming and safe space. I want that for other people too. It should be easier for them. Ask yourself, was Jesus really accepted? Wasn’t he different? Aren’t we all different? Don’t we all belong and deserve acceptance? How do we let others know they have a safe space right here?<br />
<br />So on this transfiguration Sunday and with Jesus revealed in a new light – is Jesus really different or do we just understand him better? Are we wanting to embrace the message that we are all God’s beautiful children and that full acceptance and love is the clear path? The end of March presents a fork in our journey as a congregation, like transfiguration, some of us may need extra time, some may not be ready, I pray that the spirit will move you to a future even if scared or unsure or not comfortable and that our decision will be a radiant sign to those in our congregation that are marginalized and afraid, to those in our community that are suffering or searching for a place to worship, to the youth who need our love and protection more than ever and for future generations that should only know acceptance within their church family and the full love and grace of Jesus – Kanata United Church deserves this. Amen. AffirmKUChttp://www.blogger.com/profile/02388285954259914332noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3982693381799659221.post-33235084990125510922020-03-01T12:00:00.000-05:002020-03-01T12:00:03.970-05:00<h3 class="description-small ng-binding">
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To hear about Dev's experience, you can read the article on the Tapestry website, and listen to the broadcast.<br />
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<a href="https://www.cbc.ca/radio/tapestry/it-was-devastating-queer-evangelical-survives-gay-conversion-therapy-and-helps-others-heal-1.5464893">https://www.cbc.ca/radio/tapestry/it-was-devastating-queer-evangelical-survives-gay-conversion-therapy-and-helps-others-heal-1.5464893</a>AffirmKUChttp://www.blogger.com/profile/02388285954259914332noreply@blogger.com0